The Infamous Form (And How to Make Your Own): Soft & Unfiltered Bonus 2

What I asked instead of “what’s your favorite color?”

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Texts I sent my friends as I was making my form

Before he was bae, he was just the man in my DMs.

The one I made a Google Form for.

I kept it short. Because let’s be real—I wouldn’t fill out a twenty-question form for a stranger, and I don’t expect anyone else to. So I made mine quick, but intentional. Something that took just enough effort to show he was serious.

I wanted to ask questions that actually mattered to me. Not small talk. Not “what do you do?” and “what’s your favorite color?” I wanted questions that dug into what I cared about when screening romantic partners.